A relationship, no matter the type, is like anything else in life and must have some effort put forth in order to be successful. With a little common sense and a lot of consideration and compassion, you can ensure that all of your relationships are pleasant, positive and healthy.
Here are five very simple things that you can do to improve the relationships you currently have and also pave the way for successful ones in the future.
Take Responsibility for Yourself
This is probably the most important choice in maintaining a healthy relationship of any kind. Taking responsibility for your own needs and feelings is the most effective way of ensuring a happy, lasting partnership with anyone. Realizing that you are the only one responsible for your destiny and happiness will allow you to be in control of your own life instead of relying on someone else to do it for you.
Gratitude Instead of Attitude
Many of us take for granted the numerous things people regularly do for us, whether it's monumental or simple and insignificant. Nothing will sabotage a relationship quicker than taking someone for granted and not appreciating what they do, or even just who they are and what they mean to you. Showing your appreciation, no matter how small, will validate the person's actions and show that you truly care about the effort they put forth for you.
Stop and Smell the Roses
Life seems to pass us by all too quickly, which is rather unfortunate considering we're often left with not enough time to do and say the things we've always wanted. But by stepping back and relaxing for a moment, you'll be able to put things in perspective better, and then, in turn, appreciate the beauty of all aspects of your relationships, regardless of how small they may seem.
Acceptance Instead of Judgment
Continuously pointing out a loved one's shortcomings will only hinder future relations with that person. And while one may forgive hurtful words and actions, it's often much harder to actually forget them. By accepting someone for who they are, the loving person you chose to be in a relationship with, you'll be better able to interact with them on a more satisfying level of love and acceptance. A critical nature will only create lasting strife and unpleasantness.
Make it About Them Instead of You
There are many times when we must selflessly put others and their needs ahead of our own. A lot of people mistakenly enter a relationship wondering what's in it for them instead of how they're going to better the lives of those around them. A relationship where both parties treat each other with love, kindness, understanding and respect instead of negativity is one that will surely flourish.
- Princess Diaries
- Quezon City, NCR, Philippines
- I am blessed, a songwriter, a musician, an educator, an artist, a SERVANT of GOD, a woman after God's own heart and a princess by heart=)
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Doing great things...
It is not enough to be the best… when you have the ability to be GREAT!”
what is your potential..
what’s holdong you back?
Vision: Can you see, touch and taste your dreams?
Belief: beyond hope, absolute faith in yourself, in your goals, in the outcome
Desire: What gives depth and meaning to your life?
Courage: the ability to place your dreams above your fears.
Perseverance: in the face of disappointment, in the face of setbacks and barriers, the strength to take one step, and then another… and then another…
Execution: What inspires you to action? What is your creative force?
Passion: What spark lights your sould? What drives you?
Aspire to greatness in each facet of your life, in your career, in your relationships, in your dreams, for the future, it simply is not enough to be the best… when you have the ability to be GREAT.
what is your potential..
what’s holdong you back?
Vision: Can you see, touch and taste your dreams?
Belief: beyond hope, absolute faith in yourself, in your goals, in the outcome
Desire: What gives depth and meaning to your life?
Courage: the ability to place your dreams above your fears.
Perseverance: in the face of disappointment, in the face of setbacks and barriers, the strength to take one step, and then another… and then another…
Execution: What inspires you to action? What is your creative force?
Passion: What spark lights your sould? What drives you?
Aspire to greatness in each facet of your life, in your career, in your relationships, in your dreams, for the future, it simply is not enough to be the best… when you have the ability to be GREAT.
Brokenness in waiting
Well, I have been so broken a lot of times and sometimes I asked God why, but then again He slowly molds us to something what He wants us to become. :)
"WAIT PATIENTLY FOR THE LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD."--Psalm 27:14
What is the difference between 'waiting for the LORD' and 'waiting patiently for the Lord? I think the first waiting is our response to the circumstances that demands our compliance to wait, while the second waiting is a result of God's dealing with us in brokenness that results in a willingness to wait for the Lord. Somehow, life is designed by God's appointed waiting sheds and from there we gain better perspective and live simple lives of faith.
On the outset, to 'wait upon the Lord' means a circumstance leaves us no choice...like, we wait for flights, for the weather to calm down, for our numbers to be called while falling in line at government offices or movie houses. Waiting is a part of existing. Waiting patiently for the Lord is the result of God's dealing with us in brokenness. 'Waiting for the Lord" is compliance while 'waiting patiently for the Lord' is friendship. It takes brokenness to see this point and more brokenness to appreciate and desire this state of waiting patiently for the Lord.
How long is our waiting time? Honestly, it is difficult to tell or to predict. One can be certain the Lord will meet us at His appointed time. It is here that we are confronted with the humbling truth that we are not in control of everything. It is here we see our helplessness. It is also here that we hear the invitation of the Almighty to cease striving and to slow down...and know God. This is not easy to appreciate...but when we learn to wait patiently for the Lord it becomes a hunger hard to deny.
The delays and denials are actually preparations for the blessings that God is more than willing to give. Why is it so necessary to be broken before enjoying whatever God wants us to have? It is because in being broken, we actually learn to savor and truly enjoy God's blessings. Here, God is honored and we are humbled. In waiting patiently, our need for grace is so clear, our dark side is exposed and out prayers are intense. It is also in waiting patiently that our appetite for the glory of God and and for Him to be glorified grows strong and deep. Waiting, praying, and worshipping patiently is now the delight of our souls. :)
Instead of asking Him why, let's just tell Him--I want you to choose for me Lord,for I know all things are beautiful in your Time. :)
To God be the greatest glory. ;)
God bless us all. :)
"WAIT PATIENTLY FOR THE LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD."--Psalm 27:14
What is the difference between 'waiting for the LORD' and 'waiting patiently for the Lord? I think the first waiting is our response to the circumstances that demands our compliance to wait, while the second waiting is a result of God's dealing with us in brokenness that results in a willingness to wait for the Lord. Somehow, life is designed by God's appointed waiting sheds and from there we gain better perspective and live simple lives of faith.
On the outset, to 'wait upon the Lord' means a circumstance leaves us no choice...like, we wait for flights, for the weather to calm down, for our numbers to be called while falling in line at government offices or movie houses. Waiting is a part of existing. Waiting patiently for the Lord is the result of God's dealing with us in brokenness. 'Waiting for the Lord" is compliance while 'waiting patiently for the Lord' is friendship. It takes brokenness to see this point and more brokenness to appreciate and desire this state of waiting patiently for the Lord.
How long is our waiting time? Honestly, it is difficult to tell or to predict. One can be certain the Lord will meet us at His appointed time. It is here that we are confronted with the humbling truth that we are not in control of everything. It is here we see our helplessness. It is also here that we hear the invitation of the Almighty to cease striving and to slow down...and know God. This is not easy to appreciate...but when we learn to wait patiently for the Lord it becomes a hunger hard to deny.
The delays and denials are actually preparations for the blessings that God is more than willing to give. Why is it so necessary to be broken before enjoying whatever God wants us to have? It is because in being broken, we actually learn to savor and truly enjoy God's blessings. Here, God is honored and we are humbled. In waiting patiently, our need for grace is so clear, our dark side is exposed and out prayers are intense. It is also in waiting patiently that our appetite for the glory of God and and for Him to be glorified grows strong and deep. Waiting, praying, and worshipping patiently is now the delight of our souls. :)
Instead of asking Him why, let's just tell Him--I want you to choose for me Lord,for I know all things are beautiful in your Time. :)
To God be the greatest glory. ;)
God bless us all. :)
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
TRUE LOVE WAITS
Singleness Is A Blessing
In showbizness, singleness is really a blessing, according to True Love Waits ambassadors DJ & Micah Lamar a.k.a. The Lamars. Brothers DJ (20) and Micah (18) set off their acting debut last year as Sam Milby’s bandmates in the Kapamilya feature, “Idol.”
Despite the blessing of growing up in a Christian home and provincial solitude the Lamars have struggles in being single. They share, “Sometimes you see your friends in relationships and they look happy and looks like they’re having fun and you feel jealous, but then you realize that probably in a couple months they’re just gonna break up and find someone else…”
DJ & Micah Lamar for TLW Philippines
Hints of Jealousy
Even if hints of jealousy often come up they realize that there’s nothing real in the relationships they see. No commitment at all. “Nowadays it’s just a game, who can get the prettier girl, cuter guy, or they just want ‘someone’ because everyone else has someone,” the Lamars said.
These brothers dodge their hints of jealousy deciding that fleeting emotions and satisfaction are not what they’re looking for, “We want something real, someone we will eventually commit the rest of our lives with,” they said.
A Decision To Be Single
“When you go into a relationship, you give a part of your heart to that person. Things go well at first then you break up, then you go into another relationship. You give your heart again to someone else… and the cycle just repeats itself.”
DJ & Micah further explained that “by the time you find the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with, you can’t give your whole heart to him or her because you’ve already shared it with other people in your previous relationships.” For the Lamars, it’s waiting for the right one than to going into a relationship for the sake of having a relationship. It’s settling for the best to come.
Waiting and Marriage
Young as they are the Lamars has nuggets of wisdom to share about marriage. “Marriage is a gift. It’s a privilege of sharing and committing your life with someone. It’s a gift that nowadays is not taken seriously because it’s not easy, and never will be.”
“Marriage is a beautiful thing but for some reason today it became an option. I guess people don’t like to face challenges nowadays so they just give in to divorce. But then again, if God is not in the center, that’ll definitely make things even the more difficult.” By waiting and honoring marriage the Lamars desires to honor none other than the creator of it: God. Waiting also means honoring the girl God will pick out for them.
Premarital Sex and Youth
UNASHAMED to be Pure
“When you’re doing ‘everything’ before you get married,” the Lamars continued, “the side effects will appear when you get married and it will be difficult.”
“Engaging in PMS (premarital sex) is a sin! There’s no other way to say it. You can try to reason with yourself and make up excuses or whatever but it’s still a sin.”
“Despite it being a sin, know that God is merciful and that He forgives, but that doesn’t give you right to abuse that and go do it again. God knows what’s in your heart, there’s nothing you can hide from Him.”
“Singles! Be proud and unashamed,” they call out. “God knows and has someone out there for you. Just be patient. Don’t feel like you have to be like everyone else. Go for something that will last for a lifetime.”
“Your friends might make fun of you or whatever but deep down inside they respect you. They might not admit or say it but we promise you they do because it shows that a real man can be patient and have self-control.”
There might only be a few who desire to be single with this kind of perspective on love, sex and marriage but as True Love Waits ambassadors the Lamars desire that all singles out there will, “live a life that will honor God, because at the end of the day, that’s what really matters.”
In showbizness, singleness is really a blessing, according to True Love Waits ambassadors DJ & Micah Lamar a.k.a. The Lamars. Brothers DJ (20) and Micah (18) set off their acting debut last year as Sam Milby’s bandmates in the Kapamilya feature, “Idol.”
Despite the blessing of growing up in a Christian home and provincial solitude the Lamars have struggles in being single. They share, “Sometimes you see your friends in relationships and they look happy and looks like they’re having fun and you feel jealous, but then you realize that probably in a couple months they’re just gonna break up and find someone else…”
DJ & Micah Lamar for TLW Philippines
Hints of Jealousy
Even if hints of jealousy often come up they realize that there’s nothing real in the relationships they see. No commitment at all. “Nowadays it’s just a game, who can get the prettier girl, cuter guy, or they just want ‘someone’ because everyone else has someone,” the Lamars said.
These brothers dodge their hints of jealousy deciding that fleeting emotions and satisfaction are not what they’re looking for, “We want something real, someone we will eventually commit the rest of our lives with,” they said.
A Decision To Be Single
“When you go into a relationship, you give a part of your heart to that person. Things go well at first then you break up, then you go into another relationship. You give your heart again to someone else… and the cycle just repeats itself.”
DJ & Micah further explained that “by the time you find the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with, you can’t give your whole heart to him or her because you’ve already shared it with other people in your previous relationships.” For the Lamars, it’s waiting for the right one than to going into a relationship for the sake of having a relationship. It’s settling for the best to come.
Waiting and Marriage
Young as they are the Lamars has nuggets of wisdom to share about marriage. “Marriage is a gift. It’s a privilege of sharing and committing your life with someone. It’s a gift that nowadays is not taken seriously because it’s not easy, and never will be.”
“Marriage is a beautiful thing but for some reason today it became an option. I guess people don’t like to face challenges nowadays so they just give in to divorce. But then again, if God is not in the center, that’ll definitely make things even the more difficult.” By waiting and honoring marriage the Lamars desires to honor none other than the creator of it: God. Waiting also means honoring the girl God will pick out for them.
Premarital Sex and Youth
UNASHAMED to be Pure
“When you’re doing ‘everything’ before you get married,” the Lamars continued, “the side effects will appear when you get married and it will be difficult.”
“Engaging in PMS (premarital sex) is a sin! There’s no other way to say it. You can try to reason with yourself and make up excuses or whatever but it’s still a sin.”
“Despite it being a sin, know that God is merciful and that He forgives, but that doesn’t give you right to abuse that and go do it again. God knows what’s in your heart, there’s nothing you can hide from Him.”
“Singles! Be proud and unashamed,” they call out. “God knows and has someone out there for you. Just be patient. Don’t feel like you have to be like everyone else. Go for something that will last for a lifetime.”
“Your friends might make fun of you or whatever but deep down inside they respect you. They might not admit or say it but we promise you they do because it shows that a real man can be patient and have self-control.”
There might only be a few who desire to be single with this kind of perspective on love, sex and marriage but as True Love Waits ambassadors the Lamars desire that all singles out there will, “live a life that will honor God, because at the end of the day, that’s what really matters.”
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