A need to CHANGE

My sister told me that whatever you do to make your life go the way you want it, there will always be something that will come along to mess it all up. I guess that's what we all have to live with as long as we're here...change.

There are only so many things you can do to prepare yourself for things to come. Most of which are preparations that deal with financial and emotional concerns. But you know, come to think of it, how can we prepare for everything when our understanding of the world and our lives are limited to only what our minds can comprehend? I guess the answer is simple. We can't.

It goes the same way in relationships the way I see it. You love the only way you know how, thinking that it's going to be enough. But it never is. Change takes place in you, in your partner, and in the world that your relationship exists in. Again, there is no way of stopping the forces of change.

So what is there left to do? Do we just grovel in a corner and let change take away all the permanence we so deeply long for? Is there no reason to hold on to anything in this life?

The answer lies in what we use to "see" things, our mind or our heart. When our heart is open and allows love and contentment to blossom, no matter what happens around us, we'll feel complete. Losing a partner, a friend, a loved one, or a job does not mean that the love and concern you extended for each them disappears along with it. That's what stays behind. That is what change can never ever reach.

Thinking too much and seeing with our minds normally leads to more confusion because we tend to over- rationalize things, without really remembering that it's an exercise in futility. There is no way you can fully justify all the events in life. Just embrace everything that's going on, ride it through and keep on remembering that as long as you have love to give, life will find a way for you to use it. It may not come when you want it and how you want it but that's change...unpredictable.

Life still is beautiful. And I can't wait for the next roll of the dice.